Imagine sitting on the bank of a rushing river. The only safe way to cross is to use a series of slippery rocks covered with moss that barely protrude from the swift current. As you begin to cross it becomes obvious that the best way to move to the next stone is to plant both feet firmly where you have below. With both feet firmly, to achieve maximum balance and stability to make the next move. Your only point of equilibrium is the rock you down. At that time there is no alternative and no possibility of being elsewhere. If you are mourning for the circumstances, will only get distract your attention from the task ahead: to make it safely across the River. If you feel victim ("Why me?" "What have I done to deserve this?") You do not only increase the chances of falling into the water end, almost as if to prove that you are really a victim worthy of pity.
away your attention from the point where you are and will dramatically reduce your chances of achieving the target, increasing ending up at the same circumstances wished to avoid.
Try to jump quickly from a mossy rock to the next and, in all likelihood, you're in the water, wet and debatiéndote. But if you keep your attention at exactly the place where you are, pausing to regain balance after each step, slowly, firmly and consistently, you can go from rock to rock, however slippery the road may be.
In life, say your feet is to accept yourself and accept the present circumstances, however much we want to be different or elsewhere. The reluctance to accept it leads to frustration over the current circumstances, anger by past events and the acts of others, guilt and remorse for one's behavior, and loss of courage and confidence in your ability to manage what is happening around you. Recognize and accept things as they are not the same as giving up or giving up future they desire. It does not mean you're happy and you've become complacent. On the contrary, to accept things as they are you get in a position to exert as much control and influence over the future, because you operate from your single point of power: the present moment.
Your strategy is to focus on the present. From now on, wherever you are caught in the emotions of the past, including anger, guilt and insecurity, say to yourself, and even aloud: "The way things are." In the last twenty years I have repeated thousands of times. When you're mired in negative events of the past, use this statement to return to the current, time and again, until it happens almost automatically. At that point you will discover that the past is losing its emotional grip.
Over time, through constant repetition of this procedure, you will lose all
emotional attachment to the past, no matter what or how much it has occurred.
Remember that the past is not real. Your only reality is the present. Your past is just a series of thoughts that you could both make a movie as your own experience. Flow of thoughts that can not dominate your life or your future, unless you let him take your mind and distract your attention from the task at hand. When that happens, regain control of your own mind fixing it again in the present.
